Chinese character for the action to hear
For a deep listening
(more than an idea, a reflection)
You know, Mom, what is the company more delicata e importante che dovrai affrontare da genitore? Imparare ad ascoltare profondamente il tuo bambino.
In estrema sintesi, tutti i giochi musicali e sonori che ti racconto e che metterai in atto riconducono a questo grande obiettivo.
Avrai spesso sentito parlare di amore incondizionato . Il concetto è meno astratto o esistenziale di quanto si pensi. La predisposizione all’amore per il proprio figlio, innato in ogni genitore, è tuttavia sporcato , alterato e filtrato dai bisogni, le paure, i pregiudizi e gli attaccamenti che ogni persona vive ogni giorno e che si manifestano attraverso l’ armatura psicosomatica che indossa ognuno di noi.
Devi pensare a quel grumo of emotions, habits and conditioning as a veil in front of you with your spiritual eyes, that cloud your opinion and change the way things are, even your relationship with your child and, ultimately, listening to and understanding of his needs and his emotions.
Your son is himself and your mirror, at the same time. Mirror of your actions, the revelation of his vocation. The parent is responsible for e- ducare , to bring out and support the enormous potential of new life.
In this human journey special, wonderful and full of surprises, uncertainties and unexpected joys, has an important role the ability to meet and welcome your baby.
one punto di vista musicale, ogni essere vivente è una vera orchestra che suona in modo organico il concerto dell’esistere. A te il compito di imparare ad ascoltare il suo battito cardiaco, il suo respiro, il ritmo dei suoi movimenti, la musicalità delle sue lallazioni e delle sue pernacchie,… e anche il suono delle sue paure, i tempi dei suoi silenzi e dei suoi tentennamenti. Dovrai riuscire a esprimergli la fiducia di potersi manifestare per quello che è, per quello che prova realmente, e non per quello che vorresti che fosse o dovrebbe essere.
Tu, mamma, hai un punto di vista e una posizione di ascolto privilegiate. Quando lo allatti, ascolta il ritmo delle suzioni, delle pause per respirare o per il ruttino. Quando lo culli, first seeks contact with his breathing, to listen and understand in what state is. Over time, you'll see how it changes with breathing and lung growth as varied during the day on the basis of his emotional states. Listen to the sound of his movements, the tension of his muscles, his was a general tonic. So you can learn when you need to stimulate and soothe him when necessary. Listen when you leave, and appreciate every second of that abandonment, because it is precious and rare and will fade very quickly. Learn how to reinforce it when they need to scold him when needed and have the resources to be able to receive, when you hold it away in the sea of \u200b\u200bhis emotions, arousal and fatigue. It would be useful to punish him when he just tired and agitated, the place would not be useful to him when he is thinking in his own way, to understand, not very useful role when you're away from your tests. Learn to not take action to irritation or reaction, but depending on what you need each other. It is an art, this one, which grows day by day with the action. An art that, in case of errors, is constantly renewed and always allows you to start over. While this
developments carefully, and learn to interact with him through the art of nonverbal communication and insight, remember that you are putting a solid foundation for the communication of a life. In many families, at some point, communication between parents and children is impossible?
But we know that to really listen, you learn to do some 'of silence within you. Are you deafened by your emotions, frustrations, expectations, conventions and habits, it will be very little that can filter your deep listening. And your son will become the background of your requirements, will be a shadow, often intrusive, too demanding, disturbing and provocative.
the contrary, it will become a unique opportunity to discover the truth and love. It will be the epicenter of a profound transformation in you and who around you.
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