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Many small coups

Ora abbiamo il nuovo codice della strada. Tutti ne parlano, o almeno parlano details. I have not heard (and I would have, possibly by the readers) of legal and political context underlying principles of the road and many other "codes" that plague our civil life and which in fact are many small coups.

When democracy was abolished, the state is "stretched", takes many liberties, and will retain the right to enter into the private lives of citizens to regulate: decide if and when you can gather, such ideas are "right" and may move, such as newspapers can be sold, what ideals should be enhanced in schools and so on. The state makes decisions on other things: the uniforms of the table, the "Roman salute" disseminating "official truth", demonstrations of "fidelity" under which you can make a career in government offices.

long, without taking note of a coup in itself, we have become accustomed to submit to rules that apply to all laid down by the "competent", which does not concern only matters on which rules may apply to all prevent injustice and chaos. Few brief examples will suffice to make us reflect on the many issues that you can not list.

The technical department of the municipality not only has the power to decide whether the case is to build a shed on what che era un terreno agricolo, ma ha il potere di decidere se a casa mia posso o non posso aprire una porta o una finestra in un muro. Fra i due problemi non c’è una differenza “quantitativa”, ma si può individuare una differenza qualitativa: il primo provvedimento ha “il sapore” di una specifica disposizione comunale, mentre il secondo ha il sapore di un arbitrario intervento nella vita privata di un cittadino.

La persecuzione dei fumatori in atto da anni non ha alcun valore di tutela della salute, ma è semplicemente un arbitrio. Se una persona fuma una sigaretta in un cinema non fa morire nessuno di cancro, ma può disturbare. Può però disturbare anche una donna con un profumo scadente o un uomo with plenty of after-shave or the "bad sweating". It is a matter of education and organization and is not a health issue. Also because, unfortunately, it is forbidden to smoke in cinemas, is set up in the cinema halls for smokers. Just as the train is forbidden to smoke or use a carriage reserved for smokers. So the legislation is a violation of the personal dimension and not the expression of protection of citizens. Does not prevent abuse, but "bad habits". See on the following websites:

http://www.forcesitaly.org/Portale_News/news_viewer.php?id=1124

http://www.forcesitaly.org/Portale_News/news_viewer.php ? id = 1146

http://www.forces.org/

same problem for the helmet. An account is established by law that if a motorcyclist in an accident without a helmet died is not entitled to the same compensation would be entitled if he had brought a helmet, and an account is established that the bikers are to move with a helmet on his head.

Same for many other areas where the state has long been more pronounced and increasingly has taken the right to regulate people's habits rather than defining their actual responsibilities. The Highway Code has become the litmus test of this shift of the role of the state, as guarantor of the social life of the regulator privacy. E 'entirely reasonable that driving while intoxicated constitutes an aggravating factor if an accident occurs. It is not reasonable, rather than people who do not make any incident should be "searched inside" (the "test balloon") if they are just driving, or having sanctions if they drank two beers. Current law is absurd, because there are people with half a bottle of brandy are bright and people with half a glass of sparkling wine drunk, but I do not care so much the absurdity as the violence and arrogance of this legislation: what and how much you drink is a personal matter and not social and it is likely actually remain with these rules even if the incidents were reduced to nine tenths, in which case that would reduce the suffering due to accidents and would increase the suffering caused by the leaden thrown by the state on all of the drivers?

I will not even touch the issue of speed limits. There are studies according to which accidents fall if you put signs: see these two web pages:

http://www.fastandsafe.org.nz/Pages/Media/Monderman.htm

http: / / www.tio.ch/aa_pagine_comuni/articolo_print.asp?idarticolo=359213 ).

In any case, it seems reasonable that in the event of an accident are taken into This also kept the speed alleged by the drivers involved (as well as tire wear and brakes, etc..), but is simply insane to establish that a given stretch of road is appropriate to a given speed (regardless of traffic conditions , weather conditions, type of car used, etc..): the state is responsible for how the streets and does not like to guide people and therefore can not decide for them in areas where the skills are all imponderables, the health, emotional balance. An elderly man driving frightened by traffic is a loose cannon, but it would be absurd to do the "test of nerve 'with a new" psycho-balloon. " Even a guy a little 'drunk is dangerous, but it is an adult and is responsible for the consequences of his actions, while the state can not take responsibility for what may be (how?) Plan as a possible outcome of his actions.

The problem in question is of unprecedented gravity and is only the surface of the disaster: the silence of all the political forces that declare themselves democratic, progressive or even left. These "forces" (which in reality are "organized weaknesses) are shocked (and rightly so) if a government official becomes corrupt, leaving the villa, but not shocked at all if a government with public money sneaks into the private lives of millions of people to upset. The principles count for something and I say this regardless of my ways (in fact I am a smoker but I am also a teetotaler): the balloon makes me angry because the ban on smoking a cigarette at the bar, perhaps in a special room for smokers. The regulation of privacy would be absurd even if the smokers in Italy were one hundred thousand. E 'is even more absurd given that there are millions. After all, we can say is that they deserve it: they're all shut up and let themselves be represented by parties who are shut up and fight about everything except about these things. Same thing for drivers: maybe you will become irritable with their children after a cameras, but they pick their party's heart. Government and opposition to discuss the details of 10 km / h more or less, one point more or less than the license and banality of this kind.

Among other things, the blood has left the idea of \u200b\u200b"public control" where the last left-wing government was still in charge we could not buy any good in cash for amounts in excess of 100 € (while traveling with a few clicks tangents in the world, the wealth of organized crime, wealth accumulated evading "seriously" the IRS). This point against the left is obviously not a point in favor of the right. But it must be said that if la filosofia del manganello è almeno coerente con le tradizioni più conservatrici, la filosofia del controllo è una vergogna per la sinistra.

Viviamo in una società capitalistica e irrimediabilmente “globalizzata” in cui il 10% della popolazione dispone della metà delle ricchezze. E’ gravissimo, ma almeno se ne parla e a qualcuno sembra ingiusto. Viviamo in una società in cui si rischia di non poter più leggere il giornale. E’ gravissimo, ma almeno se ne parla e molti protestano per le varie leggi già approvate e i vari bavagli in programma che costituiscono un “colpo di stato strisciante”. Viviamo però anche in una società in cui tanti piccoli colpi di stato consistenti authoritarian rules in the privacy of citizens have been implemented between the indifference and complacency of all forces which claim to democratic ideals, liberals and socialists. This is unacceptable, but also scary.

Gianfranco

Sinuses Condition_symptoms

Music Therapy for growth - Idea five

(Alfred Otto Wolfgang Wols , Painting, 1945-46)

Mom down to earth

While waiting for your baby, mom, remember to keep a balance with the earth. From earth we rise, the earth sustains us and allows us to grow well established. When you can, lay supine on the floor with your legs bent on a nice soft carpet, puts his palms on the ground, hear that your back is stretched and the belly expands. Bring attention to your breath, the chest moves in contact with the ground. Imagine a land grant all your effort and your weight. When you want, sing a long vocalization "flash", repeated several times for each exhalation. Be welcome. The land has great arms.


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Mcculloch Primer Bulb

Music Therapy for growth - four idea

Music Compilation maternal

the early months of pregnancy, mother, begins to select music. Search with curiosity and openness between the unfamiliar plays, stealing your partner, friends, internet, ... Find music
different, having different characteristics that rhythmic, tonal, melodic and harmonic. Appreciates the diversity and the infinite possibilities of sound. Select music that give you just a real pleasure in listening, that involve you, that moves you, soothe you, that give you joy. And slowly, create your own compilation, to be heard throughout pregnancy and after childbirth, with your new puppy, at different times of day. Remember, even when it's in your belly, your baby lives with you, the sounds and movements of the music that plays. Already by pregnancy, listen to music together. More changes will be music, the more chances you have to live in different times and different emotions of the day with your child.


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Boating License Ontario

Salvatore Natoli and happiness can

In hit parade of sex is taboo and dropped to last place in the first place stands the pain. If someone mentions or shows, all trying to "pull up" with a pat on the shoulder, with faith or with a grappling hook. Let's be happy, think positive, negotiate with life. Confidence to be happy tomorrow, happy or satisfied they are already in a madhouse.

The idea that pain is part of life and living a truly human involves the capacity to live with the pain does not have a larger following. The same can be said of the idea that only the acceptance of pain can not be eliminated can try to find true joy and happiness. This "stuff" seem strange because they do not speak the TV, unless it be interviewed an expert on psychology, however, propose a few consolatory idea and "positive."

People run away from pain. Begins in childhood and pulls straight years. The pain must be fought. There should be. It 's a system failure. The right things are the talk (between "friends" wasters or TV), sports (in the sense of cheer for those who arrive first or puts a ball in a network or the strongest punches), holidays (where? Everywhere "... What to do? the same things you do in the city but in a different context ... these things? quarrel with the "dear" and kill time!), beauty (fitness, fashion, youth), cunning (managing a ministry if you are a seller, or a dancer), consent (to whom? of the fools).

Yes, the pain is not fashionable. Compassion is therefore considered a kind of perversion. Why do I feel compassion and tenderness for me if I get a tattoo with an exceptional type? Why do I feel compassion or tenderness for my fellow addicts are similar if my optimism or depressed like me rotten when the tattoo is on holiday? Why do I feel compassion or tenderness for my children? They are good: they're watching TV!

Unfortunately, happiness is not fashionable. It runs after the second coming rather than "be" in the moment fleeting. We imbufalisce for the moment escaped because time should not be lived, but "detained".

E 'consoling in the noise generated by philosophy of nothingness, one sometimes has the luxury of thinking about life, you hear and think about what he feels.

Reposition happy some reflections of a contemporary philosopher, Salvatore Natoli, who has the merit to demonstrate sensitivity and clarity. A mixture that does not affect many people, but for some it is precious. All the texts I mention here are his own. [For a discussion of the thought of Natoli you can see the post I recently published on the web page http://gianfrancoravaglia.blogspot.com/ ].

Gianfranco

"We must always occur in heart, we must always be responsible about what we can and can not, about what we have and we can not have, about the duty to give up other things, because chasing weakens us, and to choose others. But when did men have been trained in the care of themselves? When ever have become moral subjects? And 'here the big problem of ethics.

We have always thought the second category of ethical duty, being in accordance with a rule. We never thought in its original meaning, as ethos, that is, as the good habit, the ability to govern themselves. Since we are not omnipotent, no ethics only if there is no administration of his own finitude and is constitutionally immoral if one considers omnipotent "(2002, being in the world, Feltrinelli, Milano, p. 92).

"We are a society of indifference, the pain is not careful. In the face of the suffering we quest'apatia to the epic of the macabre, the shameless, television cases (...). We clownistiche manifestations of suffering, which do not reduce the amount of pain for those who suffer, men do feel a bit 'a bit stupid' good ('before the episode I was moved', ‘ho versato 10.000 lire’, mai responsabili del dolore altrui, sempre spettatori) e arricchiscono gli speculatori.

Allora consuetudine alla lotta, attenzione alla sofferenza, sentimento forte della propria dignità e della propria gloria . Non cedere, avere il senso della propria bellezza. Essere strenui. Io ho visto uomini malati terminali di cancro che hanno affrontato quest’ultima parte della loro vita col sentimento della propria gloria. Sapevano di non poter andare al di sotto di quello che erano stati, di non poter deludere le aspettative di quelle persone che li avevano visti sempre all’altezza delle situazioni. E’ chiaro che si resiste nel dolore se c’è un sentimento antecedente del dolore e se si è stati formati a questo, e si capitola se si è vissuti nella dimensione dell’incuria di sé, del vivere come gli altri” (2002, Stare al mondo , Feltrinelli, Milano, pp. 94-95).

“La serenitas è una delle forme della felicità: è il cielo senza nubi, è quindi uno scambio tra me e l’ambiente. L’espansione assume la caratteristica non della distruzione dell’ambiente, ma della fusione con esso, dell’immersione – che è quello che accade agli amanti nell’abbraccio, dove l’uno si perde nell’altro. Infatti, l’esperienza amorosa, from this mutual orgasm shows, total abandonment.

no coincidence that the Greeks told to leave by Aphrodite. We grow together, spasmodically together, the better we succeed if there is unison, if the line snaps, if the bodies can be recognized. In contrast, the growth plan can hurt if there is violence of one over, if there is no agreement, if there is no pitch. Someone suffers or rejoices in the pleasure recently. So to get the best orgasm of joy you must feel the other, not just hear yourself "(2007, Dead Poets Society and the stability of well , Edup Rome, rest. 2008, pp. 24-25).

"The evil that circulates in society often stems from a misunderstanding: it feels right because 'you have not done anything wrong,' because you do not have any responsibility. But the major fault in this: men are hurt not because it hurt but because they remain ignorant of one another. And this attitude leaves no room for those who perpetrate the very evil "(2006, The absolute evil - Nihilism in the Twentieth Century and idols , Morcelliana, Brescia, p. 64).

"The contemporary neo-paganism, that develops in the process of secularization, has a feature that can be formulated briefly in a pattern: we have a tragedy without paganism and a need for salvation without faith "(2007, Salvation without faith , Feltrinelli, Milan, repr. 2008, p. 44). "There is a desire for a world free from pain, but there's a god to ensure this, there is no absolute guarantee. So once again the technique as a place of their own salvation, what God can do, is to be built by man himself. Back to the mythical figure of the art "(op. cit. P. 51). "The tragic-that vero- non è un genere letterario, ma è una visione del mondo” (op. cit. p. 53). “La visione tragica del mondo intende la realtà come lacerazione” (op. cit. p. 56). “Se il tragico è esperienza della lacerazione, a esso si regge in quanto si diviene capaci di decisione (…) La vita è lacerazione: essa è il movimento della contraddizione. Chi volesse emanciparsi dalla contraddizione uscirebbe dalla vita. Al di fuori della contraddizione non c’è vita e il vivere propriamente consiste nella capacità di ricucire, di volta in volta, i lembi strappati dell’esistenza, di ritesserla continuamente nonostante e oltre il dolore. Oltre il dolore in forza di un più profondo amore: life and that we are beyond any real tear itself. As long as it has the power and, therefore, without arrogance "(op. cit. P. 61). "Man is made disposing of the weight of time, but carrying through its form in it. Draw the limit of its possibilities means for humans to reach their peak. It is therefore not in the infinity of life which is found the value, but in ' intensity of life. The intensity of life is not given only by the expansion of self, but the ability to adhere to life even in the face of what contradicts it "(op. cit. Pp. 227-228).

"He lives well who does not remove the dead, but who is able to bring to its height. I say this for a long time when I define my philosophy of ethics finished "(2000, The happiness of this life , Mondadori, Milan, repr. 2009, p. 168).

"In this there are many skills, not the 'study', defined as leisure and meditation. We are, above all, become incapable of silence. He is afraid. The folly is now less tied to certain realities: it is more intangible. E 'lived as an escape, lies in escaping. Escape from responsibility, especially relazioni impegnative per sé, per gli altri.

A fronte di questa dispersione si va in cerca di prontuari e ricette. Brevi, concise, soprattutto praticabili. Americane o esotiche che siano. Soluzioni facili, a portata di mano, ritenendo per tal via di potere sciogliere i grumi di dolore, i ‘nodi veri’ di sé e del mondo. E’ lo spirito del tempo.

La prima mossa che allora bisogna fare è quella di ripartire da sé, di riprendere e riannodare i fili della propria anima. Al disagio si regge se lo si affronta. Avremo maggiore salute se signoreggeremo il rischio, se nelle incertezze del presente troveremo misura. La nostra misura . Della nostra potenza, del nostro limite. Non possiamo tutto, but we have in hand the power that counts: the government of ourselves. And for our short lives is more than enough "(2002, being in the world, Feltrinelli, Milano, pp. 104-105).

Prolog &state Capital

Music Therapy for growth - Idea three

mom and my belly in the water

From the fifth month. In the swimming pool or bathtub, mom, dive up to his ears. With eyes closed, swaying to the side and singing "la" to each shift. Rhythmically and gently exercising flexibility and listening. The mouth can be submerged in water and the hand move with the waves generated by the movement.


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Diy Guestbook Wedding

Music Therapy for growth - Idea two

My father sings to his belly

During pregnancy, the early months of pregnancy, dad, supports both hands on either side of the belly of the mother, who is lying down comfortably. Observes and follows his breath. Close your eyes, close your mouth almost touching her belly and slowly, without strain, begins to sing a vocalise long duration of exhalation. Continue for at least ten minutes and for as long as you like.
Then use a voice of your choice, or the "m" in his mouth ajar. Or start small invetare songs. The fifth, sixth month, you can observe the reactions of the child, with great satisfaction.


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Beach Shower Curtains

Music Therapy for growth - an idea

Mom sings to the fetus

Durante la gravidanza, dai primi mesi di gestazione, mamma, appoggia entrambe le proprie mani sulla tua pancia. Chiudi gli occhi, ascolta il proprio respiro e lentamente, senza sforzare, inizia a cantare un vocalizzo lungo, della durata dell'espirazione. Prosegui per almento dieci minuti. Ogni giorno. E per tutto il tempo che lo desideri.
Puoi utilizzare una vocale a scelta, oppure la "m" a bocca socchiusa.


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Watery Eyes More Condition_symptoms

Music Therapy for Growth - Introduction

Ho due figli. Il più grande, Gabriele, ha quattro anni e mezzo.
Il secondo, Francesco, ha un mese e mezzo.
Sono stati, are and will be wonderful living laboratory of music therapy, with delicacy, softness and naturalness.

From here comes a simple new design for this blog. Publish short, simple ideas of music therapy to accompany the growth of a child. For use by maternal and paternal. Helpful to everyone, musicians and non musicians. For an endless journey that unites us all. Neither Gabriel nor

Francesco (but I know only a few months!) Were never children "eat and sleep," but demanding creatures, with a strong character and a lot of energy. The ideas are then tell the result of much effort and creative personal dedication. The generosity of our parents and our presence are the only condizioni che a ogni bimbo non dovrebbero mai mancare.

nota: le proposte non saranno in ordine cronologico di crescita del bambino, perché nascono dall'intuizione giornaliera. Un forse le raccoglierò in modo ordinato. Per facilitare la ricerca, tuttavia, ogni proposta avrà due etichette ricorrenti: " crescere e mt " per raggruppare tutte le idee insieme; "mamma" e/o "papà" per indicare a chi si rivolge l'idea.

Mechadoll Support System

Summer break

In questi giorni di pausa estiva, si metabolizzano le esperienze.
Da settembre si riprende, con nuove riflessioni sulla pratica di musicoterapia e con nuovi appuntamenti.
Intanto iniziano le idee su musicoterapia e crescita.

Garrett Popcorn Coupon

Spontaneously

"... when someone took possession of a truth, and said that that was the truth and tried to live according to it, then he turned into a caricature, and he embraced the truth, a lie. "

(Sherwood Anderson, 1919, Ohio Tales, trans. Com. Einaudi, Torino, repr. 1971, p. 10)

When it comes to spontaneity means basically what you want. In fact the concept in question lends itself to reflect both the good sense, both the injury, and the confusion of the speaker, because it is surrounded by areas of "concern" of the "culture" as one of the feelings and interpersonal relationships.

The term "spontaneity" should not be reported to "do things without thinking" because it would then be a synonym of stupidity: apart from the stupid, we always think, when we express ourselves. If we speak "freely" We decided that we can grant certain freedoms. In fact, no person at a party suddenly realizes that "spontaneously" is pissing in the middle of the room or in a vase of flowers. Even the dogs "do it" so easily and who is familiar with these animals knows how carefully choose the place "right". The only difference is that our place "right" (the bathroom) is not preferred by dogs.

The term "spontaneity" certainly indicate something beautiful and often allude to a sort of "lost paradise", but precisely because of this "loss" can not easily figure out what we have lost. A bit 'like some old people who say “non trovo ciò che stavo cercando” e, interrogati sulla cosa cercata confessano di non ricordarla. Quindi, brancolando nel buio ci interroghiamo sulla nostra o sull’altrui spontaneità e a volte sentenziamo a casaccio, tanto per dire qualcosa.

Se non è il pensiero (sempre presente) ad interrompere la nostra spontaneità, cosa ci fa sentire poco spontanei in una nostra espressione? Forse è un particolare modo di pensare . Proverò a seguire questa pista dopo aver fatto qualche premessa.

I comportamenti spontanei non sembrano ragionevolmente confinati all’ambito delle situazioni giocose o erotiche o informali. Si può essere molto meticolosi nel fare un gioco di società, si può essere falsi e calcolatori in un incontro erotico e si può essere metodici nello scompigliarsi i capelli per non sembrare “troppo in ordine”. Al contrario si può parlare con scioltezza ad una conferenza ed è possibile rilassarsi e “vuotare il sacco” se interrogati da un magistrato.

La spontaneità sembra inoltre non avere a che fare con la frivolezza (che ha una connotazione negativa) o con la “seriosità” (pure insopportabile), ma sembra aver a che fare con modalità sia piacevolmente “leggere”, sia opportunamente “serie” di espressione di sé . In pratica, non ha a che fare con ciò but you do with what is "honest" in expressing themselves . In this sense, if we do not put a red light between what we want (in a particular circumstance) and what we show, we are spontaneous.

Putting it this way we could also think they have solved the problem. Unfortunately things are not so simple, since we ourselves often do not have the faintest idea what we want. Perhaps, then, to be spontaneous, we need two traffic lights green: a green light that gives us what we really want to know and give us a green light showing others.

For example, if we are speaking in public and feel the cold sweat, his voice trembling and anxiety that is behind us, we're not talking spontaneously and probably do not understand why, since we have placed many miles to participate in that conference and we believe we are there just to express our ideas. For all we know, we wanted to be there and just wanted to say those things, but we feel and are "weird" as the killer sull'alibi questioned on the day and time of the murder.

If we are not spontaneous, then we have in mind something other than that we want to consciously express and have, therefore, think of things which disrupt the communication process consciously decided. In this sense the lack of spontaneity may depend on a particular way of thinking, that is a "liar think" we know the purpose of "official" of our actions but not "other." But what? To hide the fact (to ourselves before the other) that our real goal is not "admitted" (teach something, ask a favor, do good sex, dancing, etc.). But a second (further) target . A goal that is hard to admit because irrational. It should be noted, that when in fact, expressing ourselves, we have ulterior motives that we are aware, are not just "spontaneous": if we say good seem to be spontaneous and if we are "hesitant" "false" (not "little wild"). What disturbs the spontaneity is therefore a "second thought" of which we ourselves are unaware.

The "second thought" (secret) that disturbs our spontaneity is, as far as I can understand, an irrational thought that it snaps to our current needs, but reassuring illusions and fears rooted in situations ever resolved earlier. I already made it clear [cf. POST Puppies human ] that in childhood we handle unmanageable experience of rejection and humiliation. In order not to fall into a suffering greater than our capacity (incomplete) processing of pain, sometimes we cling to the illusion of being rejected for a defect or our error, and then the illusion of ourselves "redeem." We tell ourselves that way in the traditional dance systematized by the great monotheistic religions that a deity can be slaughtered for our sins, but maybe we can "improve" and "redeem." Both the infant and very private dances, and the theological (also children) overlooking one detail: children do not "deserve" NEVER to be "rejected". They can be scolded if they play with electrical outlet or "repressed" if they pull the cat's tail, but not "deserve" never a refusal, "exclusion from the security of a hug." If parents need to break that bond of security to children do so because of their folly and not due to alleged "sins" of children. This is why the theology of sin is blasphemy systematized: it assumes an even more neurotic divinity of normal parents, even as capable of imposing an exclusion "eternal."

It 'clear that if a child not to feel abandoned and intolerably alone, under the illusion of being massacred temporarily for some its inadequacy, it ends up torturing on what to do and how it should operate to be (then) accepted. Ends and then to come up with the ulterior motive of which however can not 'be aware. In fact, if the child said "in this family of crazies are not loved, but if I invent the faults I have the illusion of being loved as diligent or helpful, could not hide his despair: in fact, explicitly in the more dramatic. For this reason, when the child invents this crap does it "in secret to himself." Log into the tunnel that is the "anxiety optimistic" without recognizing what it does. To protect itself from pain with a complex reasoning (busted) but it works if it is "made operational" below the threshold of awareness. The unconscious is "this stuff here" and not a container of incestuous and destructive ideas invented by psychoanalysts crazy. Now, what happens if the child is proposed to be consciously in Boy Scouts? Is in the boy scouts and then grows and goes to the most interesting groups. If the child is proposed unconsciously absurd things just do not feel a pain, after twenty or forty years continues to execute that plan meticulously defense that no longer has any meaning. Continue to live that is, in fact, pursuing goals that six years were "useful defensive" but forty are unnecessarily devastating. It is clumsy to a conference or forty years with a girlfriend.

Unfortunately, many of the things we do can be explained by the search for security we needed four or nine years and that there are more. When a meeting is booed a speaker does not happen anything relevant to the psychological integrity of the political figure. When a pretty girl (or boy) download a suitor (or suitors) just does not happen anything serious: even though the experience can be painful is certainly tolerable. Anxiety or panic in these situations therefore has no reasonable function in the present.

Seguendo questa linea di pensiero siamo quindi arrivati ad individuare alla base della mancanza di spontaneità una ricerca (non consapevole) di “accettazione” in situazioni in cui tale ricerca non serve più. Chi parla in pubblico dovrebbe preoccuparsi di fare un servizio valido (cioè di non dire cose inutili per gli ascoltatori) e non di “fare bella figura a cinque anni”. Chi si propone di fare sesso, dovrebbe essere concentrato sul (ragionevole) obiettivo attuale piuttosto che su una possibile accettazione relativa ad un passato remoto. In pratica, se noi convivessimo consapevolmente (e dolorosamente) con il senso di solitudine e di rifiuto che non abbiamo mai accettato negli anni dell’asilo saremmo always spontaneous and we would be in a position to do things that do not interest us, or have a simple and direct ones that really concern us today. No athlete can be "spontaneously" in a triple somersault for a "stuff like that" you do with technical ability and not "spontaneously". However, the speakers would be spontaneous with the public, fans would spontaneously sex, teachers would be "cured" in teaching but informal communication and so on. Things will work well in the adult world if it works well in the world of children. This demonstrates the importance that also in terms of social functioning the way in which "Human puppies" are treated [cf. POST Alexander Neill and Summerhill School ].

The children are usually neglected and rejected, like animals, even by those who are well disposed towards them, because their surface spontaneity is valued by (almost) all but really scary. People are convinced that if not regulated the freedom of self expression in children and animals, they become destructive, while the opposite happens: it is the need to pollute the Suppression of contact, the search of affection and willingness to build harmonic relationships. Repression induces fear and anger, and then encourages more spontaneous reactions but confused, which are then misinterpreted as expressions of "natural" to be curbed. The willful child has obeyed (and arrogant in asking "things" just because he has already waived the requirement of affection), the child "antisocial" has already been humiliated and has already resigned himself to "roll up" the weakest and the dog "hell" has already given up on long walks, play and seek agreement with humans, then resigned himself to "run dry".

Spontaneity is also feared by one who proposes it. They fear the spontaneity adolescents loyal to the duties and to family and social rituals, ma temono la spontaneità anche gli adolescenti che esibiscono una ribellione inconcludente fatta di "etichette e divise": si pettinano come gallinacci punk, si sottopongono diligentemente alla tortura dei tatuaggi e si illudono di essere liberi solo perché hanno rinunciato al conformismo conformandosi all'anticonformismo; in realtà, come i carcerati nell'ora d'aria non costruiscono niente di positivo, ma si aggregano ad altri disperati in una confusa solitudine condivisa.

La spontaneità non equivale alla ribellione autorizzata (come il Carnevale) perché viene prima della repressione-ribellione e consiste nella manifestazione della curiosità, della fiducia, della voglia di un'armonia possibile. Prima di diventare soldatini o rompiballe i bambini sono stati spontanei e prima di diventare animali da circo (o da appartamento) i cuccioli sono stati spontanei. In altre parole prima di diventare mostri di obbedienza-disobbedienza sono stati autenticamente liberi e disponibili all'incontro.

La bellezza della scena del film Balla coi lupi (di Kevin Costner) in cui l'attore principale cerca di ottenere la fiducia del lupo e di fargli accettare un po' di cibo dalla sua mano è esaltante. Il lupo ha paura di questo animale sconosciuto, ma sente che non gli è ostile. Esita, si avvicina e dopo un intenso conflitto interiore accetta l'alleanza. In seguito i due "danzeranno assieme" nella notte. Tutto ciò non ha nulla to do with the complicity of "forced" between humans that induce their "friends" dogs to make races and even with the "passion" that leads many people to make bets on horse races. Children treated as recruits in training and as useful objects or animals treated as children or as "stewards of the company," are evidence of the spontaneity normally fight in progress. In the fight against crime many criminals "pay little," but the "anti-spontaneity" almost all children and almost all animals succumb and are "normalized." Yet over the wall of this mental nightmare you can experience wonderful for an adult, which is to build a relationship of trust and compared with a child or an animal.

We have already spoken of adults "anxious" that can not be spontaneous because they think "somewhere" instead of to their acceptance of what they are doing. But when adults are all the "armor" not to have even more strange anxieties, become "automatons serene" and no longer have any conflicts related to its spontaneity, have no anxiety or anxiety because they do not want to know what it means to be even more spontaneous. In such cases, people "calmly and normally crazy" they "took the plunge and have lost nothing. They believe know who they are and have the illusion of knowing that everything will be fine, since they do is "the right thing." In these cases, people can "get lost" in any character played. Two of the most popular characters of this type are those posed by "frivolous" and those related to the "seriousness". Frivolous people are people who have unbearable unwavering faith in his own liking. The people are earnest people who have unbearable unwavering faith in their ability to be appreciated. What they have in common is that they are "fugitives" are apparently here, but living in a dream world. Geese joyous or "merry" as well as the "teacher" and type "austere" as the fees are comfortable, but they live in the certainty of their splendor. In reality they have buried their true beauty in a form they consider "marketable" and that, in fact, in the years when they went to kindergarten or elementary gave them the illusion of being able to 'earn' an acceptance that in fact was not there.

Let's talk about these and other cases of normal shades of character, and not in the psychiatric sense of madness, that we are talking about variations of the "armor" that imprisons and spontaneity that remove many beautiful things: the pleasure of thinking for themselves and say what you think, freedom to say what you want to make clear demands to thank if the response is good or cry if the answer is ugly. Not only that this shell imprisons the love for oneself and for others. It prevents the acceptance of a terrible (but obvious) truth: that we are all just been loved and we are now normally treated badly, but this does not "weigh" more like when we were kids, because today we have more respect for ourselves we are good people and try to download the "normal" people (that is normally out of my head) and above all we can do more and only sensible things for ourselves and those we love.

Gianfranco

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In this blog we touch different angles of the relationship between people and society and, in particular, between persons in a society that does not work as a community. In fact, while the society we live in is limited to control and regulate the relations of individuals between them, a company-community "protect" people and the relationships between people. The company rule, govern, manage individuals considered as objects, while a large community could respect, protect and organize people's lives [see in particular the post of Section "Person, community, society and politics" ].

In this blog we have postponed for a long time the problem of the mafia or the mafia, that is, those strange aberrations of community rooted in our society. The more entrenched as the company is far from a "reality. The mob then be understood as the worst evil in the "normal" social. We have not postponed the matter for lack of interest. In fact, one of the sites we have friends from the earliest times to the "Kill All" is to refer our readers to a good site, and to say where we stand. Yet we have not written a single post on Mafia. That either is or pretends to be a post on the Mafia, but only a starting point for reflection on why not take care of this particular issue in depth.

The reasons are many and are reduced to one: this is a blog that is specifically the intersections between the size of personal and community or social. It is not a blog on psychology and spirituality, but not on economics or sociology or politics. No post, then on mafia as there is no post on unemployment or the coup so that Creeping certain forces are trying to implement. With few exceptions we have avoided issues "special" or the moment because we deal in its overall relationship between the inner and sociability. Obviously, many issues that we care so much neglect, but they are already covered by other sites or books or associations.

So even in this post does not talk about "mafia" as well as in other post we talked about "school" or "health care" or "the machinery of justice", while touching on themes such decline in these directions our more general discussion and to clarify that in the end what we say has considerable impact on the level of concreteness and everyday life. The consistency of our post is always the way in which people are helped or hindered in their ability to fully express themselves and how they are treated: as objects or as subjects.

Now if the term "community" we can give the "perfect society" to strive for (consisting, namely, to protect the person, of all people), we must say that the mafia is not just a "party" society, but is a reality that is negative in the ideal of community is a "horror Community" encysted in society as a tumor. While the army, the school, the release constitute "constituent areas," normal society the mafia is not a party essential: it is a pathological product that feeds your negativity of society and return to society (amplified) the same elements of negativity. It is a product closely related but not essential. In fact, the trouble with the mafia, apart from the criminal acts with which it expresses itself physically, is that it is a "big family" that is in society without being an integral part, while producing results that impact heavily on the functioning of society. As a "big family" is based on mutual recognition between subjects, but also on the exaltation of dis-values. The Mafia is a culture, a membership system, a loyalty system that produces ignorance, cancel people and leads to the negation of the value of staff who is not part and even those who belong. The dis-values \u200b\u200bare the ties of blood, the bonds of obedience, subordination of ethics to the survival of the group and its power.

All that sanctifies the person (the development of its potential, the expression of his feelings, his ability to know and convey his knowledge, his dignity and his respect for other people) is profaned the mafia culture. The person has for its membership and not for how it can develop in a unique way in the big world. The person has for what he did for the group, not for what makes good. The person has, ultimately, as a means to increase the power of the group and not as an end.

The mafia culture is a culture of fear: fear (constant) is not accepted by the group because it is the group that gives value to the person. In such a culture is not the person who enriches the group with its uniqueness. And the group is defined not to include persons who, but for his use of people in order to increase the power of the group. The comparison with the tumor in an otherwise healthy body is therefore not a poetic affectation, but close enough analogy.

Mafia trampling human dignity and affirms the honor of belonging to the group. This applies to soldiers as leaders: all strangled by fear of worthlessness (the group). The Mafia devours religion and becomes tradition, devours family relationships and transforms them into ownership "of blood," devours the loyalty that marks the friendship and loyalty turns into a hierarchical structure. It 's just the fear to unite on an emotional level and cultural community mafia and support the vitality of the community. But what kind of vitality is it? For what purpose the community is strengthened, it expands, it exposes risk and commit crimes? Simply power. More power, more money, more power and greater expansion. In order to make more money (taken from "external" society, that of "other") and to develop more power. Like a cancer that has no other purpose than to expand. The Mafia is a culture (in the sense of "tradition") that does not produce culture (in the sense of knowledge), it's vital that produces dead, is a rich producing misery.

The Mafia as a cultural reality and emotional concerns us because it is the worst version of fear and idolatry of power. Whoever is afraid and seek power and potentially mafia. Can be seduced, blackmailed, bought and sometimes even "welcomed". We do not live in a society mafia in the strict sense, but in a society compatible with the mafia in the sense that it was not just the antibodies. To them should overcome its culture of indifference, or the "culture of nothingness" that make up the ground "weak" on which the negative values \u200b\u200bMafos can take root and flourish.

Those with a strong sense of dignity of person and dignity of other people, those who seek to live a good life and who does not care about power, it can only be unrelated to the mafia or enemy of the Mafia. From foreign enemies, we can say that somehow we have always dealt with mafia writing our posts on respect for children, the problems of adolescents, on the authoritarian personality, the prejudices, the need to belong, the need for people to live among people in a community.

What we really fear is not the mafia, even though we very much hope that the police, judiciary and politics operate coherently against the Mafia in Italy and abroad. What we really fear is a society of individuals struggling to become a community of people. This company is fragile, has Weak values, purposes has faded, expresses feelings and produces weak political inconsistent. This normal society based on exploitation, madness and stupidity is on the ground can be grown on waste as the monstrosity of the Mafia .

Only for this reason (and because of our knowledge and higher skills) prefer to deal with the everyday dullness, numbness of the normal and ordinary madness, is hoping to hit the target, hitting both of the bank, the same mafia culture.

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Gianfranco

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